Words matter. When we keep hearing that thinness = morality and thinness = health, we do end up ‘feeling better’ at a lower weight. But we are mistaken to think we can achieve a better relation to self by modifying our appearance.
A few weeks ago, I wrote a post about self-care: what it is and why it matters for body image. For this second part, I am listing what self-care looks like for me.
In this guest post, Plus size fashion blogger and body positive activist Hanane Fathallah answers some of my most burning questions about food, body image and Ramadan.
For the biggest chunk of my first 30 odd years on earth, I was a perfectionist. Perfectionism insinuated itself in my mental and emotional life without my conscious knowledge. It felt like the safest thing to pursue when the world around me was scary, unfair or uncertain. It felt like the ‘proper’ answer when teachers, then later employers, asked me what I thought my ‘biggest weakness’ was. In fact, this constant chasing of perfection was highly toxic. But there are ways to let go of the self-abusing habit…